“Leah turned 5 in February and she has a diagnosis of severe global development delay, vision impairment, hypermobile joints and autistic features. When Leah learned to walk just before she turned 4, it was a magical moment for us.
Leah lives with me (mum- Michelle), Dad (Mike) and brother Ashton. I’m not going to lie, life is hard and we live on a emotional roller coaster that has, at times, really tested us. Leah is our world and she has changed our life and made us better people, but having a child with additional needs is challenging in so many ways. It makes every aspect of family life harder.
Leah has no sense of danger, you could say she’s on a level with a 9 month/1 year old’s understanding and is into exploring the world. But as she is 5 years old and growing fast, it can be very challenging.
Where do I start trying to describe our beautiful girl who is a mystery to so many? You really have to step into Leah’s world to work it out! Anything sensory, music, eating, water, light up balls and throwing things and exploring are the things Leah loves to do. Leah has no play skills other than playing catch with us but even then she will throw the ball away from us – normally into a narrow corner somewhere that we can’t get to! Leah is non verbal and as yet we haven’t been able to find anyway to communicate. She is good at taking your hand though and leading you to where she would like to go.
Leah attends a amazing school in Poole. They have really helped us, along with other professionals, to understand her world. We have become experts in learning through the senses!
Leah is our beautiful girl who has shown us how to parent in a different way. Our son Ashton is fantastic with his sister and we are so proud of him. Sadly lots of times we can’t always be the parents he deserves and that makes us sad.
Leah often gets frustrated with not being able to communicate but has learnt that if she pinches us she gets a reaction so unfortunately we get a lot of this at present. Screaming is another behaviour she has adopted.
I have had some fantastic support from friends and family but sometimes life can be isolating as taking Leah to peoples houses and going out can be so challenging. It’s hard not think ahead and how much harder life will be so we try so we just try and stay in the present.
We are currently trying to get support from social care to see if we can get some respite. It’s not something I thought we would never do but we need to be strong to care for Leah and getting some days to recharge are what we sadly need. Unfortunately I think it’s going to be hard as so many cuts have been made.
We are in the process of adapting our house. Leah can’t get up and down stairs and all the lifting has given me a bad back. We are also putting gates in place to block off kitchen as Leah’s exploring just isn’t the safe in kitchen.
Overall we are happy, apart from some days (we all have them). Leah has taught us all to look at life very differently and become more understanding people. Leah has developed more than I ever thought she would and we pray she will continue to improve”.
Written by Michelle, Leah’s Mum.